Tuesday, May 31, 2011


I definitely don't want a relationship any time soon. I'm just not ready for it. However, for once in life, I'd like to meet a guy that I'm interested in, who isn't afraid of admitting and exploring the feelings he has for me. I didn't realize that was asking for too much. I never asked for commitment. I simply don't want to sit around and assume a guy's feelings based on his actions but he's scared to say it or FULLY show it.

I also really don't understand why there are sooooo many men out there who would prefer to mess around with as many women as possible rather than finding one good one and enjoying their time with her. I'm not saying women don't have their months or even years in which they just want to screw around...I do, however, feel like men are given so many opportunities to spend quality time with a good woman, but they'd rather be with these certified hoes you see flouncing around.

Men, why do you do that? Are you THAT terrified of commitment? Have you ever taken the time to sit down and ask a girl what she's looking for in a guy? Not every woman is looking for that ring, ya know?! I can surely buy myself a ring if I wanted. Hell, I bought myself a ring this weekend because I thought I deserved it.

Sometimes I wonder if I could get inside the male brain for just a day....hmmm...what things would I discover?


Thursday, May 26, 2011

Just saying...

There are just some days when a person can get fed up with all the stupidity and lies that people are feeding them. You can often tell when a person is obviously lying to your face about the dirt they’re doing behind your back. Eventually you just get tired of pretending to go along with it and nodding your head and smiling. Eventually the dirt they’re doing to you is the dirt you’ll be doing to them. It’s just much easier to accept the fact that some people just aren’t good and they need to be out of your life completely. That’s why I honestly don’t have a problem removing people from my life. If I’m doing, doing, doing for you and you’re not doing a damn thing for me, what’s the point? I’m pretty sure you’re just using me because I’m a giving person. I’m done giving to other people. I’m tired of reaching out to those who don’t know how to accept the help or want to accept it and do nothing in return. I don’t ask for much, but the least you can do is find a way to return the favor eventually.



Dear men,

I don't know about the women YOU mess around with, but I am NOT the kind of girl who puts up with the stupidity some of you put out there.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when a guy approaches me and he knows damn well he has a girlfriend. I am single. You are not. You have a girlfriend. Stick to your girlfriend. I am not interested in that homewrecker stuff!

If you want to approach me, please come at me the right way. Single, educated, no children, no previous crimes, WITH A JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really don't have time for the rest of you.

And if you do not know how to spell, please invest in a dictionary, predictive text, and MS Word spellcheck.



Truth Is...

Truth is...a woman knows her own feelings, and often knows her man's feelings before he even says anything. The problem is most women do not want to wait around for that guy to finally say exactly what is on his mind. Some men are very quick to tell their girl how they feel, but most....oh, no. It's such a big deal to say this is what I want and this is what I need and you're the one I want to give this to me. On top of that, when the feelings change, most men will simply leave things how they are. Men seem to fear change more than death. This causes them to RUN and run fast, instead of asking their girl what she actually wants.

Truth is...half of the men out there would be really surprised at the answer they got if they asked the women in their life what they truly want. Men will automatically assume a woman wants that big shiny rock that they've been dreaming about since they were little. Have you ever tried to ask a girl what she wants?....It's the only way you'll know how to treat the situation.

Truth is....if you don't ask, you'll never know and you'll be stuck assuming...



Sometimes things change and people get feelings. Sometimes not everyone is on board for the change that happens though. And that is honestly alright as long as both parties involved understand where exactly things are heading. This way, it doesn't hurt as much when you know you have to say goodbye.

...That's not to say it won't hurt at all. It always hurts when you have to say goodbye to someone you built any kind of relationship with. However, if you know when to say goodbye, then you have more of an opportunity to learn from the experience and maintain some kind of friendship between both parties.


Wednesday, May 11, 2011

I'm a good catch :)

I'm 22 years old. I'm a damn good looking girl. I have two degrees. I am obviously well educated. I have a good job. I make my own damn money...good money. I'm going places. Why you would ever pass up an opportunity to be with me is just something I can't even pretend to understand. Why you would choose ANYONE else over me...I just don't get it. Your loss...

Wednesday, May 4, 2011


Sometimes I believe it is necessary for a person to sit back and reflect on the relationships they've had over the past few years. These relationships can also include friendships, and those with family members. For myself, I sat down and thought about my relationships over the past two years. If you don't know much about me, one thing you should absolutely know is that I don't waste my time on people who won't spend theirs on me.

In the past year alone I have moved on from friendships with people I once thought were my best friends. I started to realize that some people just aren't willing to keep up with their friendships. I have reached out to these two friends several times, but for some reason they have chosen to keep themselves busy with other things. There's only but so many times that I can reach out to a person before I give up. I told both of them that they were not any friends of mine. Of course they were mad when I said this because they wanted to say we were best friends. However, you can't be my best friend and I don't know anything about your life and you know nothing about mine. You also can't be my best friend if when I'm down and out, you're not even there to talk to me. If you don't even try to text, call, facebook, or tweet me once in a blue moon, then why should I pretend you're still my good friend? I think that's a lie to myself and on top of that, neither of you have even tried to mend things since I told you what the problem was. That just lets me know that I was right and you were wasting my time.

When it comes to relationships, I'm not even going to get into the details of how crappy things have been over the past two years. All I can say is that I gave my love to the wrong person and although someone better came around, I just could not love him. Sometimes you spend all your emotions on that one person you swear is perfect for you, but in the end you just end up getting hurt. Now I sit here everyday and think about how terrified I am to let myself go and just let someone in. I'm scared of getting hurt again. I honestly don't ever want to have to tell someone I'm in love with them again...once was enough. I don't know when I'll ever really be ready to say the words and mean them in that way.

I don't want to fall in love. Until that special guy makes me let that wall down, I'll just continue doing things to make myself happy.